My Sad Love Story

I am searching for love right now. I believe in true love still. I know some people don’t. Some people settle for second best. Not me. I am not going to settle and you shouldn’t either. In order to find my true love, I have to endure the stormy dating waters. I have had my share of bad dates and sad love stories, believe me. And I know we all have experienced some crazy ones. We have to keep fighting though. Fighting through all the bad to find the good. I know “the one” is out there somewhere and I will not rest until I find him.

Do you want to hear my sad love story that is going on right now in my love life? Well, it is really several stories all combined into one.

Let’s see where should I start? Should I start with my very first boyfriend that I had in first grade? (I went up to him) See I have been boy crazy for a long time. No, that is going too far back. I am not really that boy crazy though, I don’t have to have a boyfriend. I have gone around 2 years without even dating at all, I just focused on myself, my work, and family. However, I do want a boyfriend. With my work, I am never around anyone of the opposite sex, so there goes that avenue. I always try to keep my eyes open when I go out shopping. I find that I am usually the one that has to initiate the contact though, I don’t know why. I think some guys are a lot more shy nowadays, than in the past. Perhaps, it is all of that sexual harassment issues still haunting them, even when they are not at work. Or even all the feminism that is going around, where men hardly go up to women anymore. I don’t know, perhaps it is just me, I have been told I am very attractive though. What do you think? Do men just go up to women and try to sweep them off their feet like they did in the old days?

Anyway, back to the present. Back to my heartrending love story. So in order to find true love, I thought I would try an adventure with the online dating sites. I am on practically every dating site right now. I have tried the free ones, and the ones you pay for. Now, I have tried online dating in the past. I was definitely one of the first to try it out of my friends. Over the years that my profile has existed on dating sites, I have had some good dates, but most of them didn’t last past the first couple dates. But when I was in college, I ended up meeting men though friends of friends anyway, at one of their parties. Now that I am out of college I am finding it harder to meet guys. So I have recently been going on a ton of dates, from dating sites. It is a numbers game after all, just like anything else, isn’t it? I figure if I can go on X many dates, then I am bound to find true love. Well, I am not filling that X with a number. I must admit, that I thought I would have found him after this many dates by now, but I haven’t, so I am not putting a number on it. It takes how many dates to find true love? It doesn’t matter, as long as I keep trying, don’t settle, and find him one day!

Now, I am sure some of you may think that I am too picky and that is why I haven’t found a boyfriend yet. Well, I do admit I have my standards and so should you. It goes along with not settling. However, I have also just had some really bad luck, but I will not give up. All it takes is some determination and a little luck, again as with anything else. Well, this post is getting longer than I thought. Now, it is time for the juicy stuff too. This sad romantic story is finally going to get good. Except now, I am having second thoughts about how far I should go into the story. How many details do you want? Well, I will give you a few. Let’s just say that I have had men steal my cash and credit card right out of my wallet! Plus, I had one guy steal my camera, but he wasn’t from internet dating, he was from speed dating! Yes, I did speed dating, and it was really fun, it is not the company’s fault that I met a bad apple and it is not my fault either. I would totally go speed dating again and you should try it too. There are just a lot of bad guys out there. I know the economy is going through bad times, right now, but come on, stealing from your date? They didn’t steal very much from me, it is just the fact that they are thieves!

Of course, I have had the regular bad dating stories as well. Where, the guy says he will call and then never calls. It’s weird isn’t it? You can have the best date ever with a guy. You like everything about him and he seems to like you. He gives you lots of compliments and he talks about other things he wants to do with you in the future. He tells you, that he will call, but then never does! What the hell is that? Why say you are going to call and then never call?

Then of course there is the one night stand man. What is with some guys? A lot of them don’t even want to buy you a cup of coffee anymore. They just want you to come straight to their house to watch a movie! Yeah right! The first rule of internet dating is: always meet at a public place! The other night, the guy was offended that I didn’t want to just drive straight over to his place. His place too, not even my place, he didn’t even want to drive? Can we say lazy! He was like, “What you don’t want to come over, but I just cleaned up my place, I can’t believe you are serious.” Yeah, I am serious. Do not meet someone for the first time at their house. You never know if a guy will rape and kill you. Yes, they may sound like a great guy on the phone, but you never know! And please guys, get off your butts and meet the lady for some coffee or a drink. How hard is that? Yeah, I know you just want to cuddle of have sex on the first date, but at least buy her some coffee first! You may be able to tell, but I didn’t meet the guy the other night. I told him no, only public places. He said he understood, but then he never suggested a place. Oh well, his lost. And the weird thing is, he marked that he was looking for a long-term relationship. He even asked me on the phone if I was looking for the same thing as well, and I said yeah, and he said good. So I don’t know, but I think having sex on the first date, especially before even coffee, is a bit too fast. I like to go a little slower in my relationships. I have had several men ask me to just come over to their house or if they could just come over to my place as well. He is not the only one, it seems to be a trend. I think these ones may have been lying about the long-term thing and they just want to get laid. Weird that they don’t want to get laid for the long-term....hehe, but whatever…

Anyway, this post is now really a rant, not a sad romantic story. Sorry about that. I would love to hear your comments and rants as well. I will post a real heartbreaking love story in the future. I just have to find a man first. I need to find a boyfriend first, I need to be in a serious long-term relationship first right. That way I can give you a truly sad story. Wait, scratch that. Once I find my man, I will not have anymore heartbreaking love stories, because I will truly be in love. I will not give up the internet dating either. I hope all of you know this really was NOT a post to bash internet dating. I love internet dating! I believe there are jerks and fantastic guys everywhere you go. I will not give up and I will find “the one” for me. One day I will find the one who will be waiting for me at the end of the aisle. I will be enjoying a new journey full of love one day with my special someone, and then I will just enjoy reading other people’s stories and watching the sad love movies on the big screen. Good luck to you all in your search for love!

A Sad Love Story that Began with a Lie

This is a sad love story about a young man and woman who once met at a party. The girl was quite beautiful, as every man wanted her. The man was an average guy that no one really paid much attention too. After the party was over he got up the courage to invite her for a cup of coffee. She accepted his invitation and together they went and sat down in a small coffee shop. He was very nervous and did not say much, which made her feel a little uncomfortable when the young man finally spoke and ask the waiter to bring him some salt. He then took the salt and poured some into his coffee.

Many people began to stare at what the young man had done. His face began to turn red, but he continued to pour the salt into his cup of coffee. The young woman then asked him why did you put salt in your coffee. He then went on to tell her that when he was a young boy he lived near the ocean and how he loved playing in the salty water. So each time he has coffee he puts salt in it and it reminds him of his childhood days of living near the ocean and how much he missed his home town and his late parents too.

After listening to his story her eyes began to fill with tears. She was so touched by his story that seemed to come deep from inside his heart. She though a man who can tell about his feelings of being home sick and his inner feelings about his late parents has the kind of compassion that she just admired very much.

As time went on they began to date and she discovered just how kind-hearted, warm, caring, and what a loving person he was. She loved his sweet love words and love phrases that he always said to her. She thought how she almost missed out on getting together with him if it was not for the salty coffee. This story then became like so many other stories. They would go on to marry and would live happily for many years to come. Every time she made him a cup of coffee she would put salt into it as she knew he would always want it that way.

Thirty years went on by and he passed away and he left her a letter that she would read. It said, My dearest wife, I hope you will forgive me as I once told you a lie. It was the only lie I ever told you. Do you recall the very first time we had met. I was quite nervous with you sitting with me at the coffee shop. I wanted some sugar but instead I said salt. It was a mistake and also it was hard for me to admit it, so I just went along with it and let you think I really wanted salt instead of sugar, I was too embarrassed to tell you that part. And now that I am dying I need to tell you about this sad romantic story. I really did not like salt in my coffee, but I had salt in my coffee ever since we had met and I always knew I would never have any regrets or feel sorry for what I had done. Having you as my wife gave me the greatest happiness I had ever experienced in my whole life.

If I was able to live even a little longer I would still use salt in my coffee a second time and I would continue to love you as my wife even if I had to live a life again with the lie of drinking coffee with salt added to it. Tears filled up in her eyes as she thought some day somewhere someone may ask her just what does coffee taste like with salt added into it. She knew just what she would say. She would simply reply, it is so sweet.

And that is the end of this heartrending love story.  I don't know who wrote this story. Please let me know the name of the author, if you know. As of now this story will be by an unknown author. I cannot believe the man took salt is his coffee for so many years! I can't believe he never fessed up about the lie. I guess that is love, but I think the salty coffee part is the saddest part of all. I think it is suppose to mean that love is when someone will do anything for you. What do you think? What are some of your favorite stories? Feel free to leave a comment or email me one of your own and I will post it! Do you have a sad love story to share?

How to Write a Sad Love Story

Have you always dreamed of writing a sad love story? You can write a whole story from beginning to end. You can write a short story or a whole novel. Believe in yourself and just start writing. Make a deadline and meet it, that’s all it takes. Make a word count goal and stick to it everyday. Here are a few tips to get you thinking about how to write your very own story.

The Plot: To create a heartbreaking love story the initial information about the story is important. The beginning is important. When you create anything, you need a solid start to it, so that you have something good to build on. The most enjoyable stories are those that bring out emotions in your readers. If the initial part of the story brings out the happiness of the story, then this will allow you to create the sad ending. Don’t worry too much about how you will get from point A to point B. Just start writing, ideas will come to you as you write. Knowing a general plot is all you need, such as girl meets boy. Boy looses girl and so on…

Creating mood: A key to any sad romantic story, is to create a mood of happiness and joy. You want to make the initial mood as peaceful, happy, and a place that someone would enjoy being. It can be in a physically peaceful and beautiful place, or in a beautiful situation that brings great joy. Try to put a certain mood or conflict on every page. Keep the readers turning those pages, so they cannot wait to see what happens next.

Creating characters you care about: You must make the main players someone that most people would enjoy knowing. When you care about the characters involved in a heartrending love story, you start to appreciate their feelings and their situation. You must also make them people that we see in everyday life so that we all can relate to them. Create strengths and weaknesses in the characters personalities or emotions, that in the future may be used to help create the problems which lie ahead. Give readers a hero or heroine they can relate to, but make them human as well. No one is perfect. Make your bad guys have a motive as well, besides just being crazy.

The first meeting: The next important thing to do is to make the first meeting of the characters real. We all can remember our first meeting with those that we know well, and it is important to make it as real as possible. It will allow the reader to appreciate the meeting as one that happens in everyday in life. Show the love that ignites around the characters. Describe how the characters are feeling when they first meet. Describe how their surroundings affect them.

The relationship: Now it is important for the writer to make the relationship grow into something special. This can be very enjoyable for many writers because you can use your thoughts to make emotional bonds between the characters. Remember that the more you make the subjects care about one another, the more tear jerking love story you will have.

The reasons that make the sad love story: Now that you have a happy story that seems to be going well, you need to create a situation that is too difficult for the couple to overcome. The two major reasons a couple ends their relationship are being unfaithful, or the pressures of dealing with bad money situations. These two problems are used many times in sad love stories. You can also include situations like illness, mental or emotional problems, or even misunderstandings that can not be solved due to a lack of communication. Create a major conflict and a whole bunch of little conflicts, both internal and external, in order to keep the story moving.

The final chapter: It is important now to create a final situation in which the couple cannot overcome their problems. Make sure that you show the emotions of each character and the sadness it brings. Write about their reactions to the problem and show how it affects each character. This will allow your readers to feel the pain of this couple, and will allow them to feel bad for them because of the connection they have with the characters in the story.

The most important thing is to have fun writing your story. Just keep on writing. Remember that this is just a first draft. Nobody’s first draft is 100% ready to be publish. So have fun writing, even if you think it is crap, just keep writing. Write everyday, even if it is just one sentence. Keep writing in order to keep the momentum going. Create characters you love. Give them sexy or wacky personality traits. Create conflict on every page and make you story heartbreaking. Believe in yourself and know that you can write an amazing sad love story!