Showing posts with label be positive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label be positive. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Sad Love Story Breakups - Learn From Them

Are you in your own sad love story? Did you just have a bad breakup? How did it happen? At first you were crazy in love and then bam! What can you do to stop breaking up? Will you ever find the one you are meant to be with forever? True love exists and you will find him or her one day. Stay encouraged and positive that you will have a happy love story. This sad love story will pass and you will find your happily ever after. Learn a little more about how you can find your true love.

Learn from the breakup. In order to stop breaking up with people, you need to learn from your mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes, no one is perfect. And that is a good thing! I would not want to live up to someone who is perfect…hehe. :) Look at yourself and how you can improve. I think everybody can always improve themselves. Know that it is a process. Don’t beat yourself up. Love yourself more and love others more. Learn from your mistakes and them move on. Don’t dwell on this one sad love story in your life, for there will be many more happy love stories to come.

Communications is key to a healthy happy love story. Many people breakup and they don’t know why. It may be, because they didn’t communicate to their partner well. Remember, no one can read minds. Tell you lover how you feel. In relationships talk about where you see yourself in the future. Know the other person’s values. Talk about family, kids, religion, politics, and money… I know they say you are not suppose to talk about these topics, but it is very important when you are spending the rest of your lives together. If you don’t share the same values, it can be very difficult to stay together. Make sure that you will have a wonderful love story that will last, not a sad love story.


Many people breakup, because they fight too much. Try to control your emotions and actions more. Yes, it is hard, but you do have self-control. Let your partner win the fight sometimes, just to find the peace. Think before you speak. Don’t let him frustrated or anger you so much, try to maintain a peaceful state of mind. Don’t complain about him. Look for the good things that he does. Most men display their love through their actions, not words. So watch what he does with a loving eye. Try to have a more peaceful loving mind. Think loving happy thoughts, not bad ones. Turn that sad love story into a happily ever after.

When you do fight, forgive easily. Yes, you may not want to forgive him. It can be really hard to forgive, but holding in that grudge can damage the relationship. Forgiving your partner can also be good for you. Holding a grudge damages your soul and happiness. Forgive him easily and be happy. Even if it is his fault, be the better person and forgive him anyway, and then he will probably ask for your forgiveness as well. Forgive the sad love story fights, and feel the weight lifted off of your shoulders.

Trust That You Will Not Have a Sad Love Story

Trust your lover more. Tell your partner how you feel. When you hold things back, they may not trust you and it also means that you do not trust them. If you don’t have trust in a relationship, then it will fail. Open your heart all the way, don’t hold anything back. Don’t be afraid to love, because true love is worth it. If you get hurt, move on and love with all your heart some more. Believe in true love and know that you can have a happily ever after in your very own love story.

Another way to stop breaking up is by giving more compliments and respect. Everybody loves to hear sweet love phrases whispered in the ear. Giving someone a compliment, makes them more happy, which will make you more happy. Try to give your partner one truthful loving compliment everyday. Think about them more, ask them questions about their day, and really listen to them. Don’t make conversations all about you, all of the time. Look for ways to make them happy. Romance them, and wine and dine them more. You could even write some short love poems for them. Go ahead and give it a shot, it is always the thought that counts. Make your own love story last, don‘t make a sad love story.

You can stop breaking up. Believe in true love. Don’t settle for anybody less than the best. No one is perfect, but there is someone perfect for you. Keep searching. Stay positive and happy. Learn from past breakups and move on. Trust more, forgive easily, give out love words, control your emotions, and communicate. Know that you don’t have to live in a sad love story, hold out for your happily ever after.

Turn a Sad Love Story into a Happy One!

Why do we like to hear about a sad love story? When we go through a breakup we like to read sad love stories or watch sad love movies, because we can relate. They can also help to release our anger and grief. Sad love movies can also help to let us know that we are not alone in our pain. Some of these sad love stories can even have a positive happy ending, which gives us hope. There is hope for the future, finding true love, and living happily ever after.

Why do we watch sad love movies when we are in a perfectly happy relationship though? What entices you about a sad love story? Is it the love? We are want to be loved. Watching love movies give you warm fuzzy emotions. And the sad endings happen in life as well. We all hope they will not happen to us, so it is better to watch it happen to someone else, not us.

Watching a sad love movie or reading a sad love story can also bring out the tears. Crying every once in awhile can release the emotions and balance you out. Holding all of your emotions up in a ball is not good. So go and have a good cry, while reading your favorite love story. Do books make you cry? I have cried while reading a good book. Although, I don’t read many sad love stories. I enjoy reading happy romantic novels. However, I sometimes enjoy watching a sad love movie. And I have cried in a lot of them. It feels good to let it out sometimes.

Other times we may watch a sad love movie is when we have gone through a breakup. We like to lock ourselves up in our bedroom and watch movie after movie. Why do we pick a sad love story? Why not a happy romantic comedy? Well, sometimes a romantic comedy will make you even more sad, because you don’t have that happy romance anymore. You can relate to the sad love story. And watching the sad love movies can release any anger and tears that you had stored up. Watching a sad love movie can also remind you, that you are not alone. Many people have gone through bad breakups and they turn out all right at the end of the story.

Laugh at that Sad Love Story
However, after you are done watching a few sad love movies, perhaps you should watch a comedy. Not a romantic comedy, just a regular knee slapping comedy. Something that will get your laughing. Put down that sad love story your were reading and start laughing. Laughing is great medicine for the soul. Distract your mind with some silly movies.

Don’t let those sad emotions tear you up inside. Control your emotions and find joy in knowing that you will find true love one day. You can have a happily ever after. This one sad love story in your life right now is not the end of your story. You may be sad now, but know it will pass. Try to laugh in life more in general as well, not just at the movies. Try to laugh at yourself more. Look for things to laugh at and you will notice that you are laughing more.

Choose to be happy in life. Being happy is a choice. Don’t let sad circumstances affect you so much. Yes, some people are just born more happy than others, but it is still a choice. Choose to be more positive. Look for the good, not the bad. If bad thoughts enter your head, choose to think about good things instead. Change your thoughts to happy thoughts. Don’t dwell on the past and those sad love stories. Think about happy love stories. The more you choose to be happy, you will notice that you will become a much more happier person overall.

So whether you feel like watching a sad love movie or a happy love movie, have fun. Learn to control your emotions. Strive to have a peaceful state of mind. Know that it is a process. Keep trying to be more positive and laugh more. Learn to forgive easily and love more. You will find your happy ending one day. This is not the end of a sad love story, but the start of a happy one.

Monday, March 1, 2010

Is Your Love Life a Sad Love Story?

One day you are madly in love and the next day you are in a sad love story. Now you are experiencing grief, loss, and bereavement. You thought the two of you were head over heels for each other and then what happen? Or perhaps you could see the breakup coming. Whether you have been together for a long time or a short time, we are go through stages of grief. Learning what those five stages are can help us get out of the sad love story and move on to the next happy love story.

Denying the Sad Ending
When your partner first leaves you, it feels unbelievable. You think that everything will be alright in the morning. Or they will call you back soon, perhaps they just got busy. You know that your story ends happily. You know that you are not living in a sad love story. You are in denial and you realize that they are really gone when they never call you back.

Anger
When you realize that he will never call you back, you get angry. You will scream, cry, and yell. It is normal to get angry, but you have to learn to control this anger. You don’t want to lash out at someone who is just trying to be there for you. When you are angry like this, oftentimes you will want to be alone. And this too is normal, take time to get over this anger. Be careful about not getting angry at others or yourself. Try not to blame yourself too much. Don’t let the “what if’s” run around and around in your head. Figure out your mistakes or your partner’s mistakes, learn from them and then move on. Don’t dwell on the past. Don’t let this one sad love story tear you down.

Bargaining for Your Love Story
After you are done being angry you may move on to bargaining. You try to call up your partner and promise to do this and that to get him back. For example, you may sacrifice your friends or hobbies just to make him happy, but that is a mistake. Don’t sacrifice yourself to please someone. You are obviously not meant to be together anyway. Know that you will find the one you are suppose to be with one day. Someone who loves your hobbies and friends. Someone who loves you and all your flaws. Stay strong and know that your sad love story does not have to have a sad ending.

Depression
Next comes depression. This is when you really want to be alone. You don’t go out with friends. You don’t enjoy the same activities that you use to enjoy. You just want to stay in your room and read a sad love story, or watch sad love movies. Know that this too will pass one day. You may feel extremely sad now or even depressed, but one day you will feel happy again. Talk to someone. Find a good friend that you trust or don’t be afraid to find a doctor. Talk about it and pray about it. Don’t let your emotions rule you. Know that you can have a happy love story. Forget this sad love story that is bothering you right now and move on to find the happy love stories.

Accepting the Sad Love Story
And finally comes acceptance. The sad love story is over and it is time to move on to the next chapter in your life. You have learned from the past and now it is time to forget about it, and be full of hope for new love and joy. Choose to be happy and positive in life. Keep looking up with a smile. When you are ready to find someone that truly loves you, put your heart out there. Don’t hold back, just because your heart has been broken. True love exists, you have just not met that person yet. Believe that one day you will have a happily ever after.


Being happy and being sad is a part of life. There is nothing we can do about that, but we can control how we react to the sad parts of life. Remember, that is okay to grieve your loss. Go ahead and grieve, let it all out. Then try to stay strong and positive. Don’t loose hope for the future. Know that bright days are ahead, for there is a time for everything. A time to be sad and a time to love. Keep searching for your true love. Don’t let this one sad love story grab on to you, let it go, and find your happy ending.